Finding a partner has never been easier – Choose your dating app – datingrater.net
In this first section we will talk about serious websites and applications, which are the most suitable for finding a partner when your goal is to establish a stable relationship. In a way, these platforms are direct heirs of the old marriage agencies, whose main objective was to collect data from men and women to find the perfect match – the match – taking into account factors such as age, tastes or social status, based on extensive questionnaires.
When we think about the probabilities we have of finding the ideal couple within our social routine, in comparison with the probabilities that technology offers us, it is clear that mathematics has come to help Cupid, converted into an algorithm, to give a little push to love. How many probabilities would we have of finding that perfect couple without the help of those exhaustive questionnaires and without the immediacy provided by the Internet?
Meetic, or be2, are generalist matchmaking platforms that offer their services to all types of people with different tastes and objectives beyond the romantic ideal of finding your “better half”, but it is true that they try to establish the fundamental issues clearly from the beginning, to avoid misunderstandings. The first thing they will ask you is what is your sex, but also that of your future partner: man looking for a woman, woman looking for a man, man looking for a man or woman looking for a woman. In any case, users of generalist platforms have a mostly hetero profile.
The second most important question also arises at the beginning, and is related to the expectations about the type of relationship we are looking for. In Meetic, for example, the first screen asks straight out: “Are you ready for a relationship”, and the main options are three: “Yes, I would love to”, “Depending on what comes up”, and “No”. A fourth option is also added, in smaller print, for the undecided: “I’ll keep it to myself.
Besides Meetic and eDarling, be2 is part of the list of serious websites. However, although it has more than 30 million users worldwide, be2’s implantation in Spain is much smaller than the two platforms mentioned above.
The flirting platforms
Who wants to find a steady partner when you can have several dates a week? Sometimes what matters is the immediacy of the flirtation and not the depth or duration of the relationship, and that’s why there are easy to use applications that go straight to the point, without the need to answer complicated forms. These apps have grown especially in the heat of social networks, and have a slightly younger audience than serious platforms. The use of the smartphone is fundamental, and that’s why all these applications for linking have versions for iOs and Android.
If finding a steady partner isn’t a priority for you, one of the most popular apps for flirting in Spain is Tinder, which is characterized by its simplicity and speed, and because you only need to have an active account on Facebook. Once you are in, the characteristic system of Tinder consists of sliding the photograph of your possible flirtations to the right to contact, and to the left to ignore. Here the speed is imposed, because it’s no longer a question of choosing carefully the person with whom you are going to share the rest of your life, but quite the opposite, and that’s why the strategy of flirting is based more on the quantity than on the selection. If we were talking about fish, Tinder would be fishing with trawl nets, so users tend to slide as many pictures to the right, in order to increase the chances of finding a match. Once they are connected to each other, Tinder provides them with a private chat so that they can get to know each other a little better before making a match.
Lately, Tinder’s reign is threatened by Happn, which has more than 26 million users worldwide and is close to one million in Spain. The main characteristic of Happn is its geolocalization system, so it is possible to contact users who make the same route as you do through the streets of the city. The fantasy of getting to know that person you meet every day in the subway is no longer something impossible, provided that that person also has his Happn activated, and of course, that the desired person accepts your invitation. Happn is also very close to social networks: it connects from Facebook, and can also link to your Instagram and Spotify accounts.
Muapp boasts of being the first dating application made by and for women, in a heterosexual environment, and not necessarily to find a partner. The slogan leaves no doubt about it: “Where they play with advantage” is the phrase that appears on the home page, to establish from the first moment what the rules of the game are. To begin with, they are the ones who decide if a man can access the “showcase”, a decision that is made based on a certain amount of endorsements by the users. Once this filter has been passed, the man can finally interact, although the final decision to validate an appointment always corresponds to the woman. In addition, they will always have more information about them than the other way around. For example, girls can track the activity of men in Muapp to detect if they are contacting other women.
Adoptauntio has taken the dominance of women over the male part of the couple even further, and it shows directly with the look of an online store where the product is… an uncle. Although the name has a high ironic content, the very concept of “adopt an uncle” has received some criticism for its political incorrectness. In any case, it must be recognized that the approach is sincere, because it makes it clear that it is not an app for finding a partner. Paradoxically, in Adoptauntio there are also cases of couples that have ended up becoming a stable relationship.
In Adoptauntio it is the women who choose the possible candidates, and which one to “buy”. For example, the section entitled “Our promotions” segments men into groups such as “Latinos”, “Pijos” or “Hipsters”. Men, on the other hand, can only let themselves be adopted, and only interact when they allow it. Sometimes, when there are too many men online, the app blocks them. Oh, and another thing: although it’s a free app, men have to pay when this “rush hour” situation occurs. The most common complaint from men is that in Adoptauntio, “it’s always rush hour”.
Find a gay partner
Grindr is the most popular app among the gay community, and since its origins it is focused on geolocation to facilitate the encounter with other users who are close to you at a certain time. In any case, although this app would fall under the heading of “links”, the truth is that it is not used only for this purpose, since many users connect for the mere pleasure of meeting new people, and even to find a stable partner. The comments about Grindr usually focus on the differences between the free version and the paid version. It seems that with each new update, Grindr cuts a little more the options of the free option users to encourage the Grindr Xtra version.
On the other hand, Wapa is the application oriented to the girl-find option, with an approach also focused on geolocation. Like other apps, Wapa allows you to view photos of lesbian girls who are close to the site. Also, unlike Grindr, there is the option to leave a “footprint” to declare interest in a user.
Another aspect to take into account is that apps to find a gay partner work very well in big cities, but not so in rural areas or in some smaller cities. This is due to issues not related to technology, but to the traditional mentality that persists in less populated areas, and that is why the gay community feels more comfortable in cosmopolitan environments. It is not surprising that Madrid and Barcelona have the highest rates of use of these applications.
Frikis and VIPs
No matter how bizarre your tastes and hobbies may seem, or how exclusive your world may be, there are many options you have to find a partner. Cuddli or Geekmore are your applications if you are part of a group of fans, for example from manga or Star Wars.
There are also people of high status who only deign to contact people of their same economic level. Apart from moral considerations, the truth is that even Tinder has created a VIP and secret version called Tinder Select in which there is only room for contacts between millionaires or famous people, and it is accessed by strict invitation. But if you are poor and want to be part of that select group, beauty is the key that can open the door to the Olympus for you, since you can be accepted if you have the range to influence, specially if you have rich or famous people among your Instagram followers.
Dating Site Prices
In general terms, we could say that the “serious” platforms for finding a partner are paid, while the “flirting” apps have based their expansion on the most basic version being free. Prices vary even within platforms in the same category – eDarling is a little more expensive than Meetic – and there are also differences in billing mode, although normally there is a monthly price with a minimum billing of three months.