How to manage a long-distance relationship: 14 indispensable recommendations
Traditional love relationships are complex, just imagine the degree of difficulty when they are not physically together. Few know how to manage a long-distance relationship, but despite the adversities that arise, there are ways to make it successful in the end. Obviously, many people believe that such a relationship will never work, not to mention that the people around them, such as family and friends, are often uncooperative and unsupportive.
You have to start by admitting that long-distance relationships are not an ideal scenario. The situation sometimes becomes hard and on more than one occasion the couple experiences loneliness and sadness. Thinking about activities and things as simple as holding hands, walking and eating together, stroking your hair, among others, often means much more when it comes to long distance relationships. However, with the right approach, the right mindset, the right expectations and the right advice, I can assure you that a long-distance relationship can grow, solidify and succeed over time.
Distance relationships, although difficult, can also give you surprises and do not always end up being ruined. With commitment and communication, there are long-distance relationships that become more stable than others that are geographically closer. If you are currently in this scenario and want to learn how to manage a long-distance relationship, then read on and write down these 14 recommendations to get it started:
1. Everyday Communication: Key to Managing a Long-Distance Relationship
The most natural thing for a couple is to always be in touch, so this aspect should never be neglected. Since face-to-face contact is not possible, it is essential to ensure that the emotional connection is as frequent as possible. It does not imply that the conversations are long or deep. Simply frequent communication, no matter how long, will show the mutual interest and investment of time and effort in the relationship. In this way, it is easier to keep up with each other’s daily lives. When you spend whole days without any kind of exchange of experiences, by the time you tell, they have lost relevance or are no longer of the same interest.
2. Try different communication methods
Together, find out which way of communication is most effective for you. Before taking a specific one, it is advisable to try several and decide which one suits you best. From simple text messages, emails, (a bit formal, but it will depend on taste) video calls, WhatsApp, among others. The important thing is not to lose track of the daily details of each one.
Another valuable recommendation is to keep track of your schedule. It is possible that your schedules are very different and you should choose a time when you coincide. Also, if you will be too busy on one day, don’t forget to tell the other day in advance. If you are very free and your partner is usually the busiest, I recommend that you give him/her space, be more flexible and concentrate on other things.
3. Avoid excessive communication
Communication is the fundamental key, regardless of the type of relationship, be it long distance, between friends or whatever. However, when the line is crossed, there will be consequences. Being overly clingy and possessive is not healthy. The reality is that there is no need to communicate 12 times a day for the relationship to flow. The mistake many couples make is thinking that to compensate for the distance, it is necessary to talk much more. As you can imagine, this is not true. Not only does this make the relationship worse, but very soon one of us will feel tired and unwilling to continue.
Don’t forget that sometimes more is less. It is not a question of abusing communication, otherwise you will end up getting annoyed. In fact, the right approach to communication is to develop it at the right times.
4. Take it as an opportunity
It’s amazing how leading a long-distance relationship can be a completely enriching and learning experience. Distance can also be seen as an opportunity to test how deep and true the love between you is. Instead of thinking that this long-distance relationship is tearing you apart, it is better to believe that through this ‘process’ you will both build a noticeably stronger relationship. Did you know that to learn to live with each other, you must first learn to live alone?
5. Take your body out of dangerous situations
If you know very well that your partner does not feel too good about you going alone to a nightclub to drink with your friends, then you only have two options: not to go, or tell your partner that you will go so that he at least knows about it.
It is important that you don’t take this lightly, otherwise you will generate a lot of insecurity, suspicion, doubt and, of course, anger. Think that you would put him/her in a position where he/she does not feel in control at all, that he/she cannot do anything. Needless to say, these situations lend themselves perfectly to falling into the traps. What traps? For example, you unconsciously end up dating a colleague or a friend who has been flirting with you since ancient times. The smartest thing is to evaluate and be aware of all these risk situations before deciding to venture out. The best advice is to not only listen to your heart, but also to your mind.
6. Do things together
Technology and the Internet as such have brought us so close that it is increasingly easier to perform certain activities together from a distance. For example, playing video games online, watching a video on YouTube at the same time. If you have a taste for music, you can sing and play via Hangouts or Skype. It’s also good to go for a walk while holding a video call. Wow, just about anything you can think of. The possibilities are extensive and it’s up to you to find what you like best, to be spontaneous and creative.
The internet also opens the door to meet people and start a new relationship close to you or on the other side of the world. If you want to experience a relationship from a distance or as close as you can get, there are plenty of dating applications available. Check out the best flirting applications here.
7. Work towards the same goal
If there is one thing that is irrefutable, it is that it is impossible for a long-distance relationship to last forever. We are talking about something that is momentary, that will eventually have to return to normal and be established as a conventional relationship, together. What do we want in the short and medium term? How long are we going to be apart? Do we see our relationship consolidated in the future? These are all indispensable questions for both of us.
Establish a plan together, set an objective and the estimated time that you will be separated and based on this, the main objective. For this, it is crucial that you are in tune and in mutual agreement. In this way, even if you are not in the same place or in the same time zone, you will still be motivated to continue working together, in the same direction and towards the same future, side by side.
8. Enjoy time alone, with family and friends
Always remember one thing, in a long-distance relationship you are alone, but not in solitude (unless you choose to feel that way). But in reality, you should not allow your world to be just thinking about your partner and missing her. First and foremost, you still have yourself, but you must also have family nearby and good friends to enjoy and spend time with from time to time. Take advantage of enjoying them more. Take the initiative and go to the gym more often and share more there. Practicing a new hobby also helps a lot. If you get involved, there are many things you can still do that don’t involve your partner.
9. Honesty above all else
As essential as communication is honesty. Talk about your feelings and fears, about your insecurities and jealousies, about apathy and whatever feelings you feel are important. When couples start hiding things from their partners, sooner or later that secret will eat away at you. It is better to be honest. On the other hand, don’t try to deal with all the weight yourself. Get your partner to help you and you will get all the support you need. Most of the failures of long distance relationships are related to not facing the problem in the initial stage, but when it is already too late and impossible to find a feasible solution.
10. Positive attitude
You can’t always be in a positive and optimistic mode. It is normal to suffer from a downturn from time to time. However, those mood swings should not be so prolonged. When that happens, remember to inject a good dose of positive energy so that that long-distance relationship doesn’t go out and you keep the flame burning. Distance and waiting become painful and even exasperating, loneliness attacks but the key is to remember that in the end, the reward will be great. The end is always sweet and satisfactory.
A simple ‘trick’ to raise your spirits and stay positive is to feel grateful at all times. Think that at least you have someone to love, someone who cares and is attentive to you, and you feel their love despite the distance between them. The small things are the most special so you should not forget them and show gratitude. If you are both healthy, safe and thriving, that is more than enough reason to stay positive and nurture the love of the relationship.
11. Take advantage of activities your partner does not like
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not contradicting myself on point number 5. By taking advantage of doing the activities that are not to your partner’s liking, I mean those that are not his or her type. For example, you like to watch movies late at night, but your partner doesn’t like them as much and prefers to sleep early. Take advantage and watch all the movies you want or even a whole series! It’s the best time to get rid of that desire because maybe when you’re together you won’t be able to watch so many because your partner wants to sleep. If you didn’t know how to manage a long-distance relationship, much less take advantage of some aspects, you can see that there is also a good side, let’s call it that.
The reality is that in the 21st century, technology makes it possible to exchange erotic messages via a computer or a cell phone. It is an opportunity that you cannot miss to satisfy your desires. I assure you that it will be the best moment of the day. It is proof that you really want to be together and it helps to keep the flame burning. Pictures, very sexual messages and a little bit of imagination will be enough to release a little (or a lot) of tension. Believe me it is very effective and fun.
13. Never make assumptions
Those of you who are aware of the status of your relationship will surely be wondering how a long-distance relationship is possible. Some will even dare to tell you not to get your hopes up, that it might end in failure because a friend of a brother-in-law’s cousin also failed. Don’t believe him! It is not true. It is only when you stop to believe it that this bad energy, or whatever you prefer to call it, starts to be fulfilled. Always try, as much as you can, to maintain a positive mentality and remember that just as many have failed in their long-distance relationship, the number of couples who have succeeded is enormous and you will succeed.
14. Understand that long-distance relationships are quite normal
A large percentage (about 75%) of committed, fully established couples have experienced the long-distance relationship at some point. These are periods that sometimes come, they are inevitable to face, but putting all these recommendations into practice, the chances of them succeeding are remarkably higher. Are you in a long distance relationship right now? Tell us what strategies you use to keep it working.
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